How do I avoid drama?

DramaIt struck me today that we often react to drama in our lives, the same way we would react to waking up one morning and finding this image just outside our door. We would run around in panic mode, from fire to fire, trying to stomp each one out ineffectually.

For drama is not outside of us. It is within us.

As Eckhart Tolle says: “When you are not honoring the present moment by allowing it to be, you are creating drama.”

Yipes! Who knew?? We operate under the assumption that drama is “out there,” when all along, as Tolle suggests, it is within us, because we allow it to be there by kibitzing about the present moment.

So what can you do? Can you change the person at work? Can you control your child’s reactions? Can you make your husband come home earlier? NO! You might try, and every once in a while experience success, but what are the odds? Certainly, not in your favor.

So instead, you:

  • Breathe – when we focus on our breathing, it relaxes us, which helps us think more clearly.
  • Focus on what’s important – in this phase, control what you choose to think about. If you focus on the problem, you’re diving into drama. If you focus on something that’s going right, something peaceful or joyful, you create peace and leave the problem behind.
  • Accept what is – this is the hardest part – especially if you’re progressive. You know from past experience, that you cannot change what is anyway (remember, the odds are rarely in your favor), so let it go and just focus on what’s going on inside you.

Rarely do we want to give our power over to anyone else or anything else, but how often do we do just that, by letting them cause anger, frustration or heartache within us? That is the drama that Tolle is referring to. Let it go, retain your power and avoid drama, by never letting what’s going on outside, fester inside.

2017-02-15T14:09:40+00:00 March 27th, 2014|


  1. Shaylor Murray March 28, 2014 at 5:45 pm

    Great article Tammi! It's like the true power of forgiveness where we relinquish the power we give others over us.

  2. Diana Glover March 29, 2014 at 7:09 pm

    I couldn't agree more. Thank You for sharing. 🙂

    • assistant1 May 16, 2014 at 6:13 am

      Thanks, Ms. D! We miss you!

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